Archive for March, 2017

Creating your own happiness

There are often times when you may feel unhappy or dissatisfied with your life. These feelings tend to be magnified beyond what’s real and you can wind up losing sight of the good things in your life.

Like the Sheryl Crow song says, “Its not getting what you want, it’s wanting what you’ve got.”

You can create your own happiness and it’s not difficult to do. Most people are very lucky in their lives, despite bad things that may happen from time to time. Use these techniques to create your happiness:

* Practice gratitude. Recording what you are thankful for can make you feel pretty happy. Start by feeling lucky to be living in the developed world.

*Focus on what’s right about your life. You have a job and people who care about you, to begin with. You’ll realize that plenty of other things are right if you think about that.

*Don’t plan so many things. When you can see happy times coming, times that you will be able to enjoy, you are likely to feel joyful.

*Revel in moments of pleasure. Learn to pick out special moments and savor them. Promise yourself that you will remember them.

* Spend more time with friends and family. Good relationships with friends and family will make you feel lucky to be alive.

*Be thoughtful and kind. Acts of kindness can help make you feel good. A study by the University of Virginia shows that even witnessing acts of loyalty, kindness, or heroism elevate mood and increase the desire to do good deeds. When you see someone who needs help, you can feel lucky that you are able to provide it.

Learning To Think On Your Feet

Certain professions require a certain amount of quick decision making on a daily basis. People like doctors, fire fighters and even stock traders receive extensive training so that they can make capable decisions in a little amount of time.

Even if you don’t face such critical decisions on a daily basis in your job, preparation can make a big difference on the occasion where you need to think on your feet.

How do you think fast on the job? Business experts at Wharton School say your depth of knowledge on a particular subject is the key.

* Know what your primary objective is. If it’s to serve customers, your actions relate to that goal. If you operate a machine or heavy equipment, your primary goal is personal safety, and fast decisions focus on avoiding injuries.

* Use team members effectively. While making a fast decision may be required, it may not have to be instantaneous. Depend on your team. Gather information that others have and consider it before you make a fast decision.

* Check with the experts. A Wall Street trader has to act pretty fast to take advantage of a situation. Before she does, however, she checks with known experts in the field to find out what’s going on with a particular company whose stock is going up or down.

* Prepare ahead for certain crises. Whatever your job, there will come a time when you face one. Think of various crisis scenarios and what you could do.

All of your fast-action decisions may not be the best ones you could make. But if you are prepared, sought counsel, and have done the best you could under the circumstances, you can forgive yourself if you’ve made a less than ideal call.

Visualization techniques for success

Visualization is a common tactic in the world of sports. When Tiger Woods is taking a long look at a putt, then stepping back for another, he’s not just looking. He’s visualizing how he’ll make the putt.

It’s often called self-actualization, painting a picture in your mind of how you will perform a sports move or a sales call. When you visualize how you will do it and how it will turn out, chances are that your vision will come true. It’s not voodoo or wishful thinking, it’s skill and preparation coming together in the way you want them to.

Making a sales presentation before an important group can be a high-stress event. Or it can turn out just as you visualize yourself performing. You will be prepared, confident, and able to answer all questions and objections.

What’s more, you’ll be having fun, cruising along and connecting with your audience the way you always knew you could, the way you visualized you would.

In their minds, Olympic divers visualize each dive dozens of times before doing it. Quarterbacks envision a long pass arching toward a receiver downfield. These pros know that their chances of succeeding are far greater if they can “see” their success

Personal Satisfaction The Best Motivator

What motivates a person to do a good job? Or to go the extra mile for no extra pay? John Katzenbach author of Why Pride Matters More Than Money, takes a look at what does and does not motivate employees. He combines 40 years of experience with hundreds of interviews to develop his views on successful motivation.

Team-building junkets don’t work, nor do positive-attitude lapel buttons. People do value the chance to earn a good living, but Katzenbach says they thrive when they find personal satisfaction in their work. In other words, the best motivator is pride, not pay. Successful motivation requires careful thinking about how to encourage people to accomplish things that make a difference, and how to tailor incentives to individuals.

The motivational culture must begin with the frontline worker. A recent study done for a professional services firm asked employees to rate the importance of various factors to their job satisfaction. Then they asked managers to predict employee responses. These bosses greatly underestimated the effect of a lack of challenging work and recognition.

Take these examples under consideration when taking steps to improve motivation in your own department. If you haven’t been recognizing people and promoting their pride in work, it’s not too late to change. Think about it now.

Strategies In Avoiding Stress Build Up

Stress, if you let it, can build up. There are several effects of stress in the many aspects of life. Stress builds up can pose significant health risks. Often, people who cannot handle stress find themselves in rehabilitation facilities that offer twelve-step programs that could help them recover.

Avoidance is always better than cure. Learn to avoid stress build up through simple strategies that you could practice in your free time.

Learn To Have Fun

Having fun can provide a nice distraction from problems you have. Games are designed to occupy your time. Find the things that you enjoy the most. Hobbies are important parts of the relaxation process.

Drawing and gardening are great stress relievers, but you are not limited to these two. You can practically put your hands on anything that you enjoy doing. Learn that it is fine to have a little fun after hard days of work.
Taking Care Of Your Health

Stress can seriously become detrimental to your health. If you have a predetermined health condition, stress can greatly aggravate that condition. People who have a poor diet are most vulnerable to stress. Maintaining a healthy diet can help you in avoiding the health risks from stress.

Healthy eating at home can help you shed off some pounds since most people who are stressed-out tend to gain more weight than others. Planning ahead is an important step in eating healthy. Do weekly groceries, and plan your home meals every week. This way you do not have to stress yourself in thinking what you want to eat.

Eating healthy does not mean that you need to prepare a four-course meal. A simple balance meal with the combination of protein, fruits, vegetables, bread and not too much fat is enough to get you going. You can
even find healthy recipes online.

Pampering yourself with healthy meals is not the only way you can live a healthy life. Going to the spa and have a relaxing massage can avoid stress from building. You can also enroll yourself in weekly gym classes depending on how much free time you have. Exercising can help you cope with stress easily. Also, through exercise, you body release endorphins that increase your feelings of well-being.

Ask For Support

When you are feeling stressed always remember that there are people around you who can help. Friends can pick you up when you are feeling down. They can provide insights when you are confused, and help you in having fun.

Family members can provide solid support since they already know who you are and what you want. If the stress gets out of control, you can ask for counsel from your psychiatrist. Never blame yourself for the cause of stress as this will only worsen the stress that you are feeling. Do not build a wall around you whenever you are feeling stressed and never feel helpless. Stress is an enemy that you can triumph upon with the help of loved ones.

Spiritual Practices For Avoiding Stress

Lifestyle with strong religious and spiritual foundations is a healthier lifestyle. Seniors use prayers as to relieve stress. Prayers can also maintain emotional stability.
Practicing meditation can help you clear you mind in stressful situations. Spiritual practice is a personal experience and can surely nurture your soul.

Failure and Success

In the business world they call the people who dare to take risks ‘entrepreneurs’. They are the ones that believe in opportunities—that aren’t afraid to fail once, or twice, or even 10 times. They try again and again until they succeed.

Often, when they reach success, the rest of the world recognizes them and announces their ‘overnight’ glory. Fortunately, the entrepreneurs and those around them know better. They’ve experienced the struggle and the uncertainty during the times of trying, so they can appreciate the victory for what it’s really worth. They’ve managed to pick themselves up after each failure and try again. They do not allow failure to interfere with their dreams.

To find success and fulfill a dream, it’s important to acknowledge that failing is a part of trying. If you are afraid to fail then you’re afraid to try. In fact, it’s more constructive to look at failure as a setback, not finality. The only true failure is when you give up.

Power of Negative Thinking

Still skeptical that positive thinking doesn’t work? That’s OK, many people doubt it. But ironically, proof that it does work can be found by looking at negative thinking.

Negative thinking is equally as powerful as its opposite. It can make you sick. It definitely makes you unpleasant to be around. And, it considerably limits what you can achieve.

It’s the notion of a “self-fulfilling prophecy” in action—what we expect turns out to be what we get. Expect negative results and, sure enough, you’ll generate negative results.

Increased stress and lower energy levels are also linked to negative thinking. Studies have demonstrated that negativity weakens your immune system. How many times have you gotten sick during a stressful period in your life?

But why is it that negative thoughts seem to come so much more naturally than positive ones? It’s a habit. We tend to focus on the annoyances and problems in our lives, rather than on everything that’s right. We are bombarded with negative news and told we need to meet impossible ideals. We’ve forgotten the joy of simple pleasures and lack gratitude.

How to switch gears? It takes discipline and practice, but you can control your thought patterns.

Start by eliminating as many of the negative influences around you as possible. An easy one to limit is your intake of the news. You can find out what’s going on in the world without repeated focus on violence and destruction. Then, you want to replace the negative inputs with positive ones.

Read positive materials on a daily basis. Listen to motivational audio tapes or CDs, or to music that inspires or relaxes you. Spend time each day thinking about what you have to be grateful for.

After a couple of weeks of practice, positive thinking should come much more naturally. And I doubt you’ll missing those negative thoughts any more.